Fun and Successful Internet Dating

Do you wont to have fun on the internet? Are you courious about internet dating? Have you ever dreamed of meeting your ideal person? You can meet this person through online personals. Even before you find that one special person, you will find people to date, talk with, and relate to. Internet dating is, 'Taking control of your destiny,' . Have you have been letting chance determine your fate for too long? Are you ready? Do you want to meet your soulmate and enjoy a lifetime of lasting love? Post your profile, read other profiles, and soon you will be corresponding with many nice, interesting people. Let the fun begin

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How should your personal ad look, and what should it include?
Internet dating can be fun and successful.
Creating an attention-grabbing headline
Include a photograph.
Show your qualities.
Be creative.
What do I say?
What about age?
Describe yourself.
Give details.
Be honest.
Pride
Women
Men

Responding to an ad
Define your purpose.
Speak directly.
Safety online
Trust your intuition.
Trouble?

Getting acquainted: the first meeting and beyond
Exercise caution.
Pay attention.
Intimacy

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Writing your personal ad: How should your personal ad look, and what should it include?
Internet dating can be fun and successful
You have made the first step: visiting a personals website. Now you have finally decided to join and let your fun, exciting adventure begin. You will soon be talking to many people, and many people will be contacting you. We suggest you set up a separate web-based email account for your internet dating correspondence ( yahoo, hotmail, and email, for example). You can also use an email redirect service such as bigfoot, NetForward, or Email4life.

Do you like receiving emails from interesting people? You will get to know those most interesting to you by answering their emails. You may find a pen pal who shares your interests, or who is from a part of the world you want to know more about. You will have to devote some time and passion to sorting through the many profiles you find compatible with you, and also to the many people who will respond to your profile.

After you post your internet profile, you will at the very least have some fun as you search for your special person.. Now there are some lucky people who actually find their soulmate on the internet. They have both fun and success. But let's get back to YOU: How do you feel about this? Are you new to internet dating? If you have read this far, then I have piqued your interest, and you are considering giving this a try. Here are some suggestions to help you embark on your exciting exploration and journey into the world of internet dating. . .

Return to top of page Create an attention-grabing headline.
The headline is just a shour sentence or phrase which pobably wil determine how many response you receive. It's just like email: you get hundreds of SPAM emails a day, but you rarely open one unless the heading catches your attention. Check out the competition. What attracts your attention to their ads? Say something about yourself in a single brief sentence that makes you irresistable to the opposite sex.

Include a recent photograph of yourself.
"A picture is worth a thousand words." An ad with a photo will receive about five times more responses than the same ad without a photo. So be sure to include a RECENT photo, and don't forget to smile. People like responding to and meeting happy people. Let your positive, happy attitude show in your photo, and you are more likely to get many more responses.

Instead of merely stating your qualities, show them.
For example, instead of saying "I have a sense of humor", try using humor in your personal ad. If you are a well-educated, intelligent person, don't just say so. Show that you are by interesting word choice, by using correct grammar, punctuation, and spelling, by using colorful and uniquely creative descriptions, and with good writing composition in your ad.

Return to top of page It doesn't hurt to be creative.
Be creative in writing your personal ad, and each person who reads it will see it as a special profile from a special person - YOU! A creative, unique profile will likely be read from beginning to end and receive better responses. A personal ad can take many forms. Your ad could take the form of a poem, song, or perhaps an extended metaphor. A unique ad will surely stand out from the other hundreds of ads. Be positive, and let your natural exuberance and zest for life shine through in your writing. Negativity is a turn-off tfor both sexes. Return to top of page What should you tell others about you?
What are the most important things that you would like to know about a person before responding to an ad. Others probably would like to know the same about you. It is very important that you tell them what you are seeking. Are you hoping to find new friends, pen pals, casual dating partners, just looking for sex, looking for a short-term relationship, or are you looking for that one special person to settle down with for a lifetime? Different people are seeking different things. Some want to date, some are looking for fun people, some want a serious relationship. But they all are looking for someone, and someone is looking for YOU. What else can you tell them? Talk about your interests, your city in which you live, your work . . . If you work, in what field? Have you ever been married before? Do you have children? You can talk about your feelings on or interests in entertainment, arts, sports, hobbies, lifestyles, for example. What are your priorities? The more realistic you are with your expectations, the better you can screen online profiles.

Age . . .
Be sure to state your age, because others may have an age preferrence even if you do not. If you do not want to give your exact age, you might say, "mid 20s" or "early 40s." If you are fifty but feel thirty, why not say so? If you are looking for someone outside your age range, tell them what age range you seek. But don't make the age range too wide -- such as "twenty to sixty" -- or too narrow (such as 30 to 33), as this may limit responses. Stating your age, and avoiding ranges altogether, will produce the most responses. After you do get to know a person, you should reveal your exact age. Be honest and get to know each other well.

Return to top of page Describe yourself first.
It is better to describe yourself, talk some about your own personality, and let the person reading the ad decide if they might be a match. Don't write another ad that is just a long wish list of characteristics you seek. Your inner feelings will tell you when you have met the right person You should say something about the person you seek, but don't overdo it; you do not want to appear too picky. Return to top of page When describing yourself, give details.
Although it adds a personal touch, it isn't absolutely necessary to give your name in your profile. You can use a 'screen name' until after you begin corresponding with each other. You probably already have a screen name that you use for instant messaging. Describing yourself is similar to reintroducing yourself to friends. Be casual and give details. Don't just say, "I enjoy movies, music, and going out."? This sentence appears over and over in just about every personals column! You are unique, and you want your ad to be unique, to stand out from the other ads. Instead of saying that you like movies, name some or name some movies that you have recently seen. Instead of saying that you like music, name your favorite music styles, songs, and artists. If you like going out, say so and be specific.

Honesty.
Most importantly, be honest when describing yourself.
You have a better chance of finding the person you are seeking -- and with less disappointment along the way -- if you are honest from the beginning. Dishonesty is just a waste of time. If, in person, you are not the same person as in your ad, you will be found out very quickly after a real life meeting. If you are honest in your own profile, you will save yourself a later face-to-face rejection. You’ll only get email from people who like what they saw and read. Dishonesty will always be caught sooner or later. Just state who you are. There is someone for everyone. The more honest you are, the better your chances of finding your someone sooner rather than later.

Return to top of page Put your best foot forward.
You wouldn't go on your first face-to-face meeting poorly groomed, dirty, and unkempt. Your ad shouldn't look that way either. After you have written your ad, proofread it. If you can't spell, use a dictionary. Get your best friend to read it and give an opinion. Return to top of page Women:
Don't come off as a gold digger.
Most men do not understand what women mean when you state that you are seeking a "Financially Secure" man. The mere mention of the words, "Financially Secure," leads men to think you are looking for a wealthy man to take care of you financially. Putting these two words in your ad is a sure way to reduce your responses.

Men:
Most women think they are too fat, too old, too unattractive -- even if they are slender, young, and beautiful. So if you state that you are looking for an attractive, young, slender, or petite woman, you are likely to get far fewer responses to your ad.

Responding to a personal ad: You have found someone interesting; now what?

Within yourself, define your purpose.
Before responding to a personal ad, you need to answer to yourself why you are responding to an ad and why to this particular person. Are you ultimately looking for a friend, a pen pal, a date, a long-term relationship, marriage, your soulmate? What is the person in the ad you are responding to looking for? After corresponding for a while, the two of you may arrange to meet. Remember that even if you both are looking for a relationship, that after the two of you have met in person, a relationship still may or may not happen.
Speak directly and personally.
Do not send the same ("form letter") to many different profiles. (See also - "be creative.") Speak directly to the person and what they said in their ad. Mention what about the ad interested you specifically, and state why you meet this person's 'qualifications' as expressed in their profile. Give your ad mailbox number so the person can see your profile. Now is the time to share just a bit more information than that which you put into your own ad. Let your positive, happy personality show. Be polite, and at the end of your reply be sure to wish them the best - whether or not they choose to respond to your email. Most people respond positively to nice and polite people.

Online safety
You are probably hoping for an off-line friendship, love or even marriage. Email, is a great way to build loving, trusting relationships, but protect your security just as you would if you were meeting in person. Don't give your last name, address or telephone number, or specific place of work on-line! Guard against undesirable advances by using a gender-neutral nickname in chat rooms, discussion groups and on message boards. Protect yourself with common sense guidelines, and enjoy the start of what might become a very beautiful friendship.

TrustYour Intuition.
Sometimes it is kinder not to respond to someone you immediately know isn't your type, than to 'be polite' and start an online relationship and later let them down. If your online dodges your questions, or leaves out important information, trust your intuition and find someone you can trust. If you think someone is lying to you, it's likely you are right. Don't waste time with this person. Relationships are built on honesty, respect and acceptance. You deserve nothing less!

Troubles?
Nobody wants trouble, but sometimes it just happens. If you feel you are a victim of, "Cyberstalking", check out Cyberangels or Investigations Online. Before you share intimate information with your online buddy, you might want to use a background checking service such as Whois, or Checkmate.

Getting acquainted: The first meeting and beyond

Exercise caution.
The first face-to-face meeting should be at an organized event or in a VERY public place and only after you feel ready. Don't allow yourself to be pressured into meeting anyone. This is, after all, a blind date -- even if you've corresponded and talked on the phone for over 6 months. Tell your friends and family where you are going, with whom, and arrange to check in with them at a specified time during the date and again when you arrive home.

Make the first meeting short. If, after meeting, you know you won't be seeing this person again, sharing coffee and a little polite chat won't be as painful as spending a long day together. Before your first meeting, you might want to ask for references from your friend's work, friends and family. An honest person will have no objection, and will appreciate that you are 'playing it smart and safe'.

Pay close attention to what the other person says.
If someone tells you their relationships rarely last for over 6 months, believe them and beware, don't think you will be the one to change them. If this person blames all his/her failed relationships on the other person, this is someone who has never looked to see where they may also have failed in the relationship.

Intimacy
The longer you wait to have a sexual relationship, the better you will come to know the real person, and if this person is the one for you. When the time does come, practice safe sex.

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